Part Two: Dependence in Culture, Scripture and Psychology The issue of dependence is a difficult one, especially because Christians often adopt the prevailing attitude of our Western culture – that independence is always the highest ideal we should aspire to. I’ve noticed that many Christians put a spiritual spin on it, saying we should never depend … More Why I Changed My Mind About Emotional Dependence (Part 2)

Part One: Co-dependency, Enmeshment and Attachment Style I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of “emotionally dependent” relationships lately, as my perspectives have significantly evolved and shifted in this area. It seems that in a lot of ex-gay literature and ministry, there is an emphasis on avoiding or getting out of emotionally dependent relationships. … More Why I Changed My Mind about Emotional Dependence (Part 1)

Most of us have patterns in the kind of people we are attracted to. I know I do! All kinds of factors can come into play – personality, age, gender, status, ethnic background, etc. To some extent, this is healthy and natural. There are many wonderful and attractive qualities to be admired in others! There … More Patterns in Attraction: Developing Self-Awareness

I recently had a discussion in an online group with a guy who had read ‘Spiritual Friendship’ by Wesley Hill, and had many questions about Side B friendships. This blog post is an excerpt of our discussion, as I thought that some of the points would be relevant to most Side B Christians. Question: Is … More Side B Friendships: FAQ